Reason for the Downfall 2

For those that are continuing to read, I will omit names regarding this one as I know what would happen to this person if it got out........or should I?

One evening just after she got home from running, she started texting a girlfriend of hers. She told me the girl was really upset and driving around. She told me she was gonna go meet her and help her calm down and should only be gone about an hour or so. 2 hours later I text her asking where she is. She told me she was back at her friends house because she was still upset. Got some comment about about "that's what friends do, they help each other out," something like that. An hour or so later she comes home. Less than 10 minutes later she is all hot and ready to take me to bed. Not a problem at all.

 The very next night after she went to bed, I was getting ready to go downstairs. As i was walking thru the kitchen, I got this overwhelming feeling to look at her phone. When I started reading the first message on the screen, I about hit the floor. First thing I read was this message to her girlfriend..."yeah i wish there was more time so we could have done it again......". I opened the actual message and read all of it. Skipping names and details, they were in her bedroom and my spouse was having her way with the girlfriend. There was much detail in the message. Not gonna say much more than that. 

 I took the phone to her and dropped it on the bed and told her it was nice to know how she was really consoling her friend.

 I tried really hard to get over that one. Not gonna lie, it was a conversation we had many times. I told her that if we ever went that route, it was all or nothing. Not either of us without the other. So, bottom line she cheated. Would be different if she had told me and I was OK with it. Had I not looked at her phone, it would have been kept from me. So yet again, another lie. But as always, coming from her, I was wrong for checking her phone. Maybe. But did it ever occur that what she did was wrong? Did it ever occur what that done to me and my feelings and even more important, our relationship. As much as I wanted to forget that........could not do it. The bad part is, I was still more pissed over the thing with Todd..........

OK so can anyone tell me that I was wrong for being so upset and angry now?

There is one more post to sum up the rest. Not much but there is still more.

Reason for the Downfall

Well, for those that are here to see why I have lost my family..........here it goes. First of all I realize that most of the people I work with have been given a one-sided persona / opinion of me that is FAR from the truth. I do not know the exact details of my defacing, but I know the gist of it.
  I have been told that people see the way I act and automatically know how I am. Unless they know me or have taken the time to ask me, their perception and /or given persona is only what they have been told. If a person is told that someone IS a certain way, they are gonna look for that action before anything. Human Nature.
  So for those that THINK they know me and have already decided I am a certain way, don't judge me based on the opinion of someone else ..........read on. 
 When I was initially put in the Lab, things seemed to be going well. I started to notice shortly after how my spouses actions changed when she came into the room. I noticed it was mainly towards a certain person.....Todd Taylor. When she walked in the room, it was a constant bumping him or kicking his chair or leaning against his desk and flipping her hair around............those type of actions. If she would borrow his glasses to go to the floor, she would take them and walk away looking over her shoulder at him smiling. Mind you, I was right there the whole time. I told her one evening that I felt threatened by him because of the way she acted around him. Immediately, I was jealous and didn't want her talking to him. BS! That continued for a while after, daily. I came back to my desk one afternoon and my iPod was on a texting program that I had not used in a long time. I didn't turn it on but it was right there. I got to wondering why and wondered if maybe those 2 were texting. I asked about that and it turned into nothing more than a fight. Because of her reaction and the fact it was again that I was jealous, something told me there was some truth to it. I figured out that if I logged into that texting program under her name, that I would see any texts she made using it. Nothing for about a week. One Friday, right about time to go home, I checked the program and there it was. This is EXACTLY what I found:
HER: Haven't seen you up here lately (meaning Doc. Control), not been filling the supplies....or should I say "feeling" the supplies...ha ha I crack myself up
HIM: I "feel" the supplies when I can, just been busy this week...
HER: K.......maybe I want to do some feeling of my own...

  I can only take this one way........exactly as I read it. I was furious! On the way home, I asked if they had been texting and she said "no". I showed her the text and she started in about how we were gonna get divorced. Bottom line, she lied and got busted. Was it right for me to do that? Prob not but neither is lying about texting him especially after I told her how I felt about him. 
 I checked it occasionally and the very next Friday, another message.....
HIM: If he's watching you then we should prob be more careful =) 
I was given the story that it was because he didn't want to come up there and cause trouble.....cmon are you kidding me?! If it was JUST work, whats there to be careful about? Whatever!

I replied to this so they would both see it.........
ME: Thanks Jennifer and Todd for proving what I knew was true!

 On the way home, another fight. Found out she told him that I was pillaging his cell phone to get the messages. That was again, bullshit, and made me out to be the bad guy. Not that the innuendo filled messages was wrong, but because I found out. I called and talked to him on the phone and THOUGHT it was worked out. 
  Was going home one afternoon and was walking up to the DC door coming from the mold shop. As I was approaching the door, I could see her head and his head both huddled in the corner cube. When I badged, he shot around the corner and stood there like he was there the entire time. I am not stupid. She stepped out and threw her hands up like she didn't know why I was up there.
 After that finally settled, One Saturday afternoon she went for a run and took the dog with her for the first time. After she was gone for about 20 minutes, I sent her a text to make sure she was OK with the dog. Her phone was on the TV stand. I grabbed the phone to delete the message as it was a waste. When I deleted it and closed out the text program, there was a map pulled up on her phone. Naturally I looked. I was a map from work to an address in Georgetown. I already knew Todd lived out that way, so I got the address and did a reverse lookup. As I thought, it was Todds address. Just imagine how I felt! I played dumb and asked her if she was going on a trip because of the map. She completely denied it and said she didn't do it. I asked if someone had borrowed her phone and she told me NO. WHY?! So i sat down and did a reverse lookup right in front of her. She walked back to the bedroom. I walked back there and set my phone on the bed and told her the address was to his house. She knew she was wrong. THEN, it was something about someone wanted to know where David Camm lived and she knew it was close to his house. So either, she knew his address already, or took the time to look it up in JDE. OK so who now still thinks it was nothing at all?
 I don't know anyone that would have went thru this and felt any differently. I felt betrayed because I told her how I felt about him and she went headstrong into it. Made me feel less important in the relationship. This was the beginning of the end. Next post is the next part of the downfall. Read on, it gets better.......